This is the second in a five-part series from the Sara’s Secret and Condoms to Go Exclusive Event on August 21st entitled “Flirting & Foreplay”. Each week I will dive deep into specific subtopics for more detailed information and resources.
Flirting & Foreplay – 5 Ways to Create Allure & Attraction
- Determine Your Approach
- Love Language
- Curious Questions
- Seal the Deal
Determine Your Approach – 3 Strategies for Every Situation
Last week we learned about the wise words of Bobby Unser: “Success is where preparation and opportunity meet.” This leads us to this week’s focus and one of my favorite quotes by Jim Rohn, “If you don’t change your approach, you will never change your results.”
Why do some people have success in creating a connection, meeting people wherever they go while for some, no matter how hard they try, it doesn’t happen? I believe there are two types of people in this situation: those that naturally read others and know how to connect and others who have experimented in different situations to know what to do and how to do it.
#1 – “Subtle vs. Direct”
Learning this technique will be the most important thing you can do when experimenting with your approach. Subtle moves include making eye contact, sitting next to someone you’d like to speak to or positioning yourself in direct view of someone. A direct approach includes introducing yourself, sending a drink to someone and even asking for a phone number.
There are certain times and places where one approach may work better. The secret is becoming aware of your surroundings, a person (or persons) of interest while keeping in mind every situation is different. Experimenting is the key.
#2 – “Attracting Attention”
Have you ever noticed someone that carried themselves with complete confidence? Common personality traits of confident people are: they walk with purpose, they observe their surroundings, they notice people who are present and they make a decision about where they want to sit, who they want to sit by and if, and/or when, they will have a conversation. They have attracted attention by simply carrying themselves with confidence. This is an easy thing to learn starting with how to enter a room with confidence.
#3 – “Don’t Overthink”
Overthinking will kill your ability to be in the present moment. Your mind can spin out of control with all the “I should have done this…” Remember this is all about experimenting and trying different things. People, places and things will change and the more quickly you learn to adjust, the more it will decrease your overthinking brain. Do you remember when you first learned to ride a bike? It was awkward learning to pedal, steer, look and keep your balance. But over time and with practice, you became a pro and it became second nature. You didn’t have to think about it, you just hopped on and took off! Learning to go with the flow and allowing things to take their natural course will give you a liberated perspective.
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Next Week: #3 Love Language – Create a Connection
Learning someone’s love language creates a connection with someone and will greatly improve your relationship. Up next week:
Acts of Service
Words of Affirmation
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Anticipating Next Time,
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